Smoky Mountain Sorcery

Tag: adoption

  • How Sharing Trauma Can Make A Difference

    Heartbreaking Stories of “Late Term Abortions” Helped Me See The Lies I’d Been Told By the “Pro-Life” Movement I was raised to believe abortion was murder. That as an adoptee, it was only because I was born before Roe v Wade that I was born at all. My mother told me often, when I complained…

  • The “Domestic Supply of Infants” and “Pro-Life” Thinking

    I was adopted as an infant. Relinquished at birth and placed at 7 weeks. My family was open about this from the beginning, and one of my very earliest memories was being told that I was adopted. But I was also told that I was an only child because of Roe v Wade. “Your daddy…

  • This Was Always Gonna Happen

    So SCOTUS is gonna overturn Roe v Wade, and a lot of folks out there are shocked. If I had $1 for everyone on Twitter who’s take was “bUt ThEy’Ll LoSe ThE FuNdRaIsInG IsSuE!” I could cancel student loans. This is clearly difficult for some left-of-center folks to understand, but the right wing doesn’t actually…

  • The Mórrígan as Mother and More: My Appearance on Personal Pans

    I had the honor of appearing this week on the Personal Pans podcast with Vanessa Walilko. We had so much fun, I feel like I’ve gained a new friend. Here’s how she described the episode: What happens when your mother is not a mother?  Where do you find a maternal figure?  When you find yourself…

  • Tyler Henry’s Adoption Trauma

    Last night I binged the whole season of Life After Death With Tyler Henry. Concurrent with the various readings Henry gives to strangers, the season details the emotional drama surrounding his Mom’s newly-discovered adoption. Obviously, I had a lot of feelings, and there was a lot that I related to as the season progressed. Theresa…

  • Mourning Dexter

    I am not ok today, and the reasons why are really throwing me for a loop. It just doesn’t make sense except as a trauma response. Apologies if this article is messy and disjointed, but I’m trying to sort this out. I’m grieving y’all. Spoiler alert: I’m going to discuss the end of Dexter: New…

  • Sorry, Amy Coney Barrett: Adoption is NOT The Answer To Abortion

    As an adoptee, I’ve known from a young age that I could have been aborted. When I was gestating in 1970, North Carolina was one of the few states that already allowed abortion in limited circumstances (danger to mother’s health, rape, incest or likely damaged fetus.) As my birth sister explained it, my mother was…

  • Dexter Tackles Adoption Trauma

    Last night’s episode of Dexter: New Blood was super emotional for me. Without giving too much away, my favorite serial killer’s son has tracked him down in his new life in upstate New York. Since Dex faked his death when Harrison was 5, their reunion has been a bit bumpy. Last night, they went to…

  • Can People With Family Trauma Do Ancestor Work?

    So apparently there are some occult-types who think Ancestor veneration is required for all of us. But for those of us with trauma, family is often a tricky subject. If you don’t know what it’s like to be disowned or rejected by family, you really don’t have a clue how painful the idea of setting…

  • When You Feel Unheard and Unwanted

    I’ve had a recurring dream since before the situation became a (misleading) political ad: I’m home alone and someone is breaking in meaning to kill me. I call 911, and the line rings and rings… sometimes I get an answer and am told help is on the way but half an hour goes by, I’m…

  • Birth Mama Drama

    This feels like an episode of Jerry Springer lol. Grab some tea and buckle up! So, my birth mother was 18, and hadn’t finished high school when I was born and placed for adoption. I’ve always known that much – my (adoptive) parents were always open about it, and even made my teen mother sound…